How often do you really get what you want? How does that feel? On the other hand, how often do you compromise? And how does that feel? Here are a few habits to apply that can turn things around so you can get on top and achieve your highest aspirations every time.

1. Every thought has creative power. Use it to create your own outer reality. Stay keenly aware of your thought patterns; what triggers good ones and what triggers ugly ones. Once you can catch yourself, you take back control.

2. Creative visualization. Decide how you want to see the world. You can reframe how you view events and people –Recreate it on your terms. This habit can set the stage for bigger goals and a bigger vision of you and make it happen. You can see the dark clouds or look for the silver lining.

3. Recognize the Law of Attraction – what you think about, you bring about. All your energies should always be focused on the best you can accomplish. If you are a Negative Nellie, of course you’ll see the world just like Eeyore (the pessimistic donkey character in Winnie the Pooh books) and indeed that is exactly what you’ll get.

4. Only envision what you want rather than what you fear. This is not being a Pollyanna. Rather it is focusing on the best outcome we are striving for instead of being consumed with fear of the worst outcome possible.

5. Take control of designing your life. No one is in control but you. You get to make new choices every day. If you don’t like the outcome of yesterday’s choices, change them. Every choice should lead to what you want.

6. Control your thoughts and create deliberately with intent. Be sure you are clear in your intentions so you do not put blinders on yourself but rather keep your thoughts focused on your highest aspirations.

7. Learn, develop and cultivate alternatives. So when things aren’t going your way, you can turn them around. Having alternatives keeps you flexible and reduces stress without abandoning a goal or dream. Your coach can help.