"Did He Really Behave Himself At This Year's Office Christmas Party? 6 Tips To Spot If Your Man Is A Saint Or A Sinner"
Author and persuasion coach, Tony Walker has been striking fear into the hearts of liars and cheats this Christmas with the release of his "Human Lie Detector" book entitled, Liar Liar Pants On Fire!
We are said to be lied to, on average, every ten minutes.
For most of us we even lie to our children. How many of us pretend Santa Claus is real in order to convince our kids to behave themselves all year?
Sadly, one of the biggest reasons those close to us may lie is to conceal infidelity. And with the alcohol-fueled, mistletoe entangled festive season now rampant, there are many more opportunities for the man in your life to stray from the path of fidelity than at any other time of year.
Often, the lies that follow one drunken moment of stupidity can be more damaging to a relationship than the act itself.
Just as damaging though is constantly accusing someone of something they didn't do.
As well as all the good stuff though, it's well known that Christmas is also a time that sees more breakups, fights and arguments than any other.
So, if you don't want to be left wondering this year, here are 6 quick tips for calming your worries or confirming your suspicion.
1. AVOID CONFRONTATION If you suspect you are being lied to then should you confront the liar immediately? I would generally suggest not. Often the best approach is to note the fact in your mind and continue with the conversation, with a view to extracting more information.
This will tend to confirm or deny your suspicions without causing an awkward scene if your hunch proves false. Once you confront someone who has lied to you (or not) the tone of the conversation can change and gathering additional facts becomes almost impossible.
2. LOOK THEM IN THE EYES A person who is lying to you may do everything possible to avoid making eye contact. Others may make exaggerated and over prolonged eye contact in an effort to convince you of their sincerity.
3. LITTLE MOVEMENTS Hands may go up to the face or throat, especially to the mouth. But contact with the body is limited to these areas. The liar may also be unlikely to touch the chest with an open hand gesture. The liar may also touch the nose or scratch behind the ear. If he is trying to appear casual and relaxed about his answer, he may shrug a little as he talks.
4. TIMING The timing may seem off between gestures and words. If the facial expression comes after the verbal statement ("I am so angry with you right now" ... pause ... and then the angry expression), it provides further evidence of potential deceit.
5. EXPRESSIONS In some cases a liar's gesture or facial expression won't always match their words. Examples such as frowning when saying "I love you" or tightly clenched fists while stating appreciation or pleasure spring to mind.
Expression will also regularly be limited to the mouth area, rather than the whole face when the person is feigning certain emotions - happiness, surprise, awe etc.
6. POSTURE The liar may be reluctant to face the accuser and may turn the head or shift the body away. If a lie has been committed the accused will probably slouch; he is unlikely to stand tall with his arms out or outstretched.
There could also be movement away from the accuser, possibly in the direction of the nearest exit.
Above are just 5 possible giveways, even if someone is displaying all of them it doesn't necessarily mean they are lying. So before you think about flying off the handle think about this... In Liar Liar you'll discover...
- 11 Non-verbal giveaways - 8 Common tricks used by liars - 16 General Indications Of Deceit - An inside look at a liar's head - 11 Non-confrontational interrogation techniques - 4 tactics for gathering evidence in every day conversations
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"Dangerous" Debbie Jenkins is a marketer, author and
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